How will we evaluate our life when we die?
Based on studying over 3,500 Near-Death Experiences (NDEs), I’ve discovered that we’ll have the opportunity to evaluate our life when we die. We’ll experience a comprehensive Life Review where we’ll examine all of our millions of interactions with others throughout our lifetime, be they friends, family members, co-workers, neighbors, acquaintances, total strangers, or mortal enemies.
The 3 Ways We’ll Evaluate Our Life in Our Life Review
We’ll evaluate the quality of the life we lived based on three main questions. As we examine each of these essential questions, I highly encourage you to ask the very same questions of yourself NOW to see which answers you feel good about and which ones you might need to make some changes on before your life comes to an end.
1. How well did we unconditionally love ourselves and others?
First, we’ll take a look at our life and evaluate how well we treated our fellow human beings with love, compassion, kindness, generosity, patience, forgiveness, etc. We’ll see, and more importantly FEEL, exactly how all of our choices, words, and actions either helped people feel loved, valued, and appreciated or feel despised, worthless, or ignored.
“The most important criterion for judging my Life Review was this: How well had I used my life to love myself and others… It boils down to this. Every moment of every day while we exist on earth, we are given two choices, to either react from a loving or unloving way. Our purpose on earth is to learn this lesson.” Nancy Clark
“I then went through a Life Review. It was all about my relationships with others in this review. During this, I felt what they felt in my relationship with them. I felt their love or their pain or their hurt, by things I had done or said to them. Their hurt or pain made me cringe and I found myself thinking, ‘Oooh, I could have done better there.’” Jean R.
While observing and feeling how we treat others is obviously important, the Life Review also reveals how we treat ourselves. So many of us don’t fully love ourselves, which makes it tough to love others. We beat up ourselves with internal criticism, poor self-esteem, unfounded fears, limiting beliefs, and just don’t treat ourselves well. NDErs learn the unconditional love they are encouraged to give to others, they also need to extend to themselves.
“Until my NDE, I didn’t love myself… I didn’t realize that loving ourselves is actually the most important thing we can do, and that it’s the key to living a blissful life… I saw myself through the eyes of God, and I realized that far from being unloved and unlovable, I was actually a beautiful child of the universe who was loved unconditionally, simply because I exist.” Anita Moorjani
2. How well did we live our life fully and fearlessly?
We’ll also evaluate our life in terms of how fully and fearlessly we lived it. We’ll assess if we took full advantage of this amazing life we’ve been given and squeezed every ounce of fun and learning out of it. Or regretfully, did we die with our music still trapped inside us?
“The being, whom I’ll call a spirit guide, although it could’ve been an angel, asked me a question. ‘If this marked the end of my life, would I be satisfied with how it went?’ All I had said and done, and specifically how I responded to what was said and done to me? I answered honestly, as I could sense that was what the being wanted to hear. So I told it, or communicated with it that no, I would honestly have to say I would not be satisfied… I had held back. Not said what I wanted to, not done the things I wanted, out of fear. Fear of being rejected, fear of something unknown. Fear of loss.” Kim A.
If TODAY marked the end of YOUR life, would you be satisfied with how it went???
Too many people let unfounded fears hold them hostage and keep them from living full and fulfilling lives. They settle for an anesthetized life rather than living life all out with a “Carpe Diem” attitude. They settle for careers that are below their talents and abilities. They settle for relationships that don’t honor and bring out the best in them. Instead of treating life as a grand and glorious adventure, they stay locked in their self-imposed comfort zone and always play it safe in their careers, their relationships, and their aspirations. When most people look back on their life either from their death bed or their Life Review, many times they regret the things they didn’t do or take advantage of instead of the ones they did.
“We have everything inside of us or at our disposal to live loving, beauty-filled, glorious, full lives. The only thing really standing in our way is ourselves. Our own preconceived ideas and fears limit us. Many of us fall into the trap of thinking ‘small,’ of not believing that we have the capacity to live the full lives that our hearts crave. Instead we settle for a life on autopilot, one that is much less fulfilling than our hearts long for us to live. Our ideas of what life should be like, how this should work out, how people should be – these all limit us and keep us from living our lives to the fullest.” Nancy Rynes, Author of Awakenings from the Light
3. How well did we find and fulfill our life’s purpose(s)?
A final way we evaluate our life in our Life Review is how well we lived out our life’s purposes. NDErs adamantly tell us we each have at least one if not several sacred purposes to fulfill doing our precious time on earth. In fact, many choose to come back to human life from the boundless bliss and beauty of Heaven because either they realized they had not yet fulfilled their sacred life’s purpose – or God sent them back to ensure they completed their purpose before getting to stay in the Afterlife.
“I was floored at how important we all are to God – especially how important I was to God. I didn’t think He knew I even existed. All the years I was beating myself up and His question to me was, ‘Why would I go through all the trouble to make you just the way you are if I wanted you to try and be like someone else?’ No one else could do the job I came here to do the way He wanted me to do it!” Mary Beth Willi
We all have a few important purposes to achieve during our lifetime. These special purposes reveal themselves over the course of our life and usually correspond to different phases of our life’s journey like parenting our kids, helping a friend through a difficult time, assisting our elderly parents, and sharing our gifts and talents through our profession or volunteering.
Making the world a better place is one of our primary purposes. We’re all born with unique talents that when developed and applied, make a positive contribution to others, animals, and/or the environment. It is up to us to discover these gifts and talents during our lifetime, develop them so they can do the most good, and deploy them so they can help others.
“You have a specific purpose. You’re going to see people that I’ll never see. You’re going to touch lives that I’ll never touch. You’re on your own mission. And no one else can fulfill your duties but you. That’s what’s so beautiful about you being you. You are special. But there is a fulfillment there that you’ve got to find – for your sake, His sake, for the world’s sake. You were put here for a reason – to help.” Oliver John Calvert
As you consider these three crucial questions, do you feel good about your answers to how well you have loved, how well you have lived, and how well you have fulfilled your life’s purpose?
My intent in revealing and sharing these essential “End of Your Life” questions is to get you to evaluate them and your life NOW while you still have time to change or improve the answers. For you never know how much time you have left…
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